A smart divorce strategy protects your rights, preserves leverage, and reduces avoidable conflict. The points below highlight what to do—and what to avoid—so you don’t give up ground early or accept terms you’ll regret later.

1. Do: Consider Filing First (when appropriate)
   Filing first can set the pace: you present evidence first, seek temporary orders, and often get the first and last word at key hearings.
   Don’t: Panic if you’ve been served. You can still request temporary orders and, in some situations, secure the final word if the other side doesn’t seek rebuttal.
   Tip: Ask your lawyer whether filing first actually benefits your facts; it’s strategic, not automatic.

2. Do: Monitor Joint Bank Accounts and Credit Cards
   Track balances, download statements, and set alerts so funds don’t disappear and new debt isn’t created in your name.
   Don’t: Leave joint lines of credit unmanaged.
   Tip: Open your own account and discuss with your attorney the safe way to separate or freeze joint credit.

3. Don’t: Contact Your Ex Directly (once the case starts)
   Use your lawyer (or a structured co-parenting tool) for communication—especially if tensions run high. If harassment occurs, tell your attorney immediately.
   Tip: Keep communications brief, factual, and documented. Save texts/emails and avoid emotional replies.

4. Do: Audit Social Media—Yours and Theirs
   Assume posts, comments, and photos can become evidence. Pause new posting, tighten privacy, and screenshot anything relevant from the other side (responsibly). Check LinkedIn updates that could impact support.
   Tip: When in doubt, don’t post. Share updates privately with your attorney instead.

5. Don’t: Rush Major Decisions
   Speed can cost you long-term: once orders or agreements are entered, they’re hard to change.
   Tip: Pressure-test proposals with a 1-, 3-, and 5-year view (housing, taxes, parenting time, retirement). Sleep on it, then decide.